Having a narcissistic boss often means 2 things.

1

That you accept the unfair way your boss treats others, and that you compromise with yourself, your standards and thereby be on "the boss's side"

2

That you don't want to participate in your boss's "Christmas games" and that way you will slowly but surely be frozen out at your workplace.

Working under a boss who is clearly moody, power-hungry, and highly manipulative often means that you have to walk on eggshells and submit to conditions that should not be possible at all.

A boss with these tendencies will often divide the workplace into 2 parts...Those who are with the boss and those who are against.

You will probably find that those who are with the boss will have the opportunity for development in the company as well as courses, further training, etc.

They receive special care, which the boss certainly doesn't always try to hide.

This is a power play that should signal to you all the amazing opportunities you have by being on the team.

You will see how there will be division among you who are employed, because the gap between those who are for and those who are against is getting wider and wider.

This happens because the boss's "flying monkeys" will manipulate you into speaking out about another colleague by pointing out errors and shortcomings that may be important to your colleague, but also to you.

It may also be that you think your colleague is someone you can talk to confidentially, but who is actually "leaking" information to the boss.

If the boss is a malignant narcissist, the person would not try to hide anything at all.

The person will do everything to make you see how much power they have.

This can be done through small or large humiliations in a public forum.

It can also be direct scolding or interference in your private life.

If you choose not to be part of all this, you may end up becoming a shadow of yourself in the workplace itself.

You will show up every day and not have the usual social life that exists among colleagues at a workplace.

You won't know who you can be intimate with, and if you finally find someone, the boss may split you up by offering "your colleague" an "opportunity" that he or she can't resist, and suddenly the person is on the boss's side and distances themselves from you.

There's no point in trying to achieve good results because you won't get praise or recognition anyway.

In the end, you don't feel like doing anything extra at your job, because no one will see it anyway.

You end up just showing up, doing your thing, and going home again, without any joy or drive.

In really bad cases, you can develop depression or PTSD because you have to be constantly on guard and make sure to adapt all situations at work every day to the boss's mood.

If you're wondering if your boss is narcissistic, there may be some truth to this. Take charge of your relationship and take care of yourself.

Your gut feeling never lies...Always remember that.

Maybe others can't see what you see, but that does NOT make what you see, experience and feel any less wrong.