Childhood trauma you didn't know was trauma

Signs that you have experienced emotional absence in your childhood:

-You have trouble trusting others.

-You have a hard time figuring out how you're really doing.

-You don't feel completely "connected" with yourself and your emotions

-You tend to either become "dependent" on others or push them away from you.

-You feel lonely deep inside and maybe you are ashamed.

-You easily lose yourself and take on the attitudes and opinions of others.

-You have difficulty in deep relationships, even the one you have by your side.

Emotional absence from your caregivers as a child may have looked like this:

-Ignored, neglected, or completely denied your feelings as a child.

-That you have not experienced support through difficult times in your childhood

-That your feelings have not been allowed to be there, or that you have been shamed for what you have felt

-That your caregivers' problems have been blamed on you or that you were directly to blame for them.

-That you were only praised when you achieved good things and not supported through the difficult things or things you didn't achieve

-That you were only interesting or talked about because of what you were good at.

-That your caregivers didn't see you as the person you are.

Keep in mind that all of these things don't mean that your parents were bad parents at all.

They may not have known better, have not been in touch with their own emotions, or have not had the energy.

However, I am sure that most parents do the best they can from the standpoint of life they have.

Be aware that these aspects of you may fill you in an inappropriate way in your adult life and may need healing.

You must acknowledge your feelings, acknowledge yourself and remember that

It's perfectly okay to feel this way. Remember that.

You are NOT alone.