Are you a narcissist?

Kan jeg være narcissist?

I have no idea.

It is a somewhat complex diagnosis that only a few professionals can make here in Denmark.

You can, however, try to challenge yourself a little and here I mean just for yourself, but you also have to be able to tolerate feeling honestly inside yourself and being completely honest with yourself, and that can be discouraging and downright uncomfortable.

This requires a lot of courage that most people are not prepared for.

Just remember that you are NOT a bad person because you have dysfunctional traits in any way, but you can look into why it is that you choose to use these dysfunctional traits and how you might be able to do it differently in a healthier way.

We all have dysfunctional traits to a lesser or greater extent, it is a human condition.

Many have no idea that they are dysfunctional in the way they act, so for all of us there is always knowledge and learning to be gained so that we can all become the best version of ourselves.

You can reflect on the following:

-How do you feel about your loved ones achieving success that you haven't achieved yourself?

-Do you look after the interests of your loved ones for a reason that benefits you as well?

Or are you genuinely happy for others?

-If you help others, do you expect anything in return?

-Is mutual help for each other something you only use if you get something out of it yourself?

-Do you become angry and dismissive towards your children if they don't do what you expect or want, even if it's not in the child's best interest?

-Do you see your children as little extended versions of yourself and do you expect them to become what you would like to have achieved in your own life?

-Are your needs unconditionally more important than those of your partner/spouse and children?

-If you're honest, are others around you always wrong about it?

-Are your work life and your own leisure interests and needs more important than the rest of your family?

-Do you only give big and fancy gifts when others are watching or because you want your girlfriend etc. to compromise you better if they used the nice expensive gifts you buy for them?

-How do you feel about constructive criticism of you as a person?

-Do you reflect on it afterwards and take what you think is appropriate?

Are you also generous, neighborly, and help other people in need when no one sees or hears?

I can go on and on.

These questions are not a recipe for you being dysfunctional or narcissistic in any way.

They are intended for reflection for those of you who may have doubts about some of your own aspects and actions.

If you can answer yes to any of these questions, I'd say you're "Fucking" Cool

Based on this, do you dare to ask yourself and reflect on why you actually do and act as you do and what you expect to get out of this? You can answer yes to this?

It's all about development and learning and NOT about being perfect. We all start somewhere and we all have to learn as long as we live :)